A couple of nights ago I celebrated my 34th birthday with my family and close friends. Two of my close friends at the party were males. I took lots of pictures and posted them on my Facebook page. This morning, a distant relative of mine (my dad’s cousin, whom I only communicate with via social media), sent me the following message:
“Hello, and again happy belated birthday…just wondering, forgive my curiosity. Who is ur husband in the photos? The guy wearing the blue or black shirt?”
I know people are naturally curious, but it never ceases to amaze me when they have the nerve to ask. I know obviously there has to be a father and they assume there is a father, but based on looking at my social media posts, it is usually just pictures of me and my kid. Then I post a few photos of a dinner gathering with a couple guys in it, and it’s like – “One of those guys must be the father!” I just never know how to answer, especially for those whom I know are more traditional-minded. Many of the people I tell are very accepting and supportive of my decision, but sometimes there are people who just cannot believe why in the world a woman would ever choose to raise a child solo. (Ummm…because I can???)
I am very proud of my decision. I literally cannot see myself doing it any other way. This is exactly what I want, and my child is happy, healthy, and very much loved.
Choice moms/dads, single mothers/fathers by choice – I would love to hear your thoughts on how you answer when you get the “Who’s the dad?” question, whether it be strangers or relatives. What are your thoughts on this? What kinds of reactions are you getting? How do you respond when the reaction is negative?
Thanks so much for your input! This has been on my mind all morning and I needed to get it out of my system. ❤ ❤ ❤